WARM UP

1. This week, we saw a list of names in the family line of Jesus in Matthew 1. If you could build your dream family tree with any two names from history, who would you want as an ancestor, and why?

• Additional Thought: This is a fun, creative way to explore what kind of character or legacy we admire. Some may choose spiritual giants; others might go with innovators or even entertainers—use this to get to know group personalities.
• Additional Question: What values or traits do those ancestors represent to you?
• Conversation Caution: The conversation could drift into politics or celebrity gossip—encourage the group to focus on admirable traits.

 

2. We kicked off our series in the Book of Matthew, titled “The Art of Surrender.” When you hear the word “surrender,” what’s the very first thing that comes to mind—whether serious, funny, or random?

• Additional Thought: “Surrender” might trigger ideas of defeat, military loss, or even a worship song—help your group embrace whatever comes to mind.
• Additional Scripture: Romans 12:1 – Present your bodies as a living sacrifice.
• Additional Question: Has your idea of surrender changed over time?
• Conversation Caution: Some may associate surrender with painful or traumatic moments. If it turns emotional, create space for that and offer support.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Try popcorn style sharing—just invite whoever wants to go next.

 

3. Was there anything in this weekend’s message that surprised you, challenged you, or just stuck with you?

 

KNOW IT   

Paul and Matthew are two great examples from the Bible of what it looks like to fully surrender to God—but their stories are really different. Let’s take a look at what they have in common and how their experiences with Jesus were unique. Read Philippians 3:3–10 (Paul) and Luke 5:27–32 (Matthew).

1. What does surrender look like in Paul and Matthew’s stories based on their different backgrounds? What did they risk or give up by following Jesus, and what did they gain?

• Additional Thought: Paul gave up status and religious clout; Matthew gave up wealth and career stability. Both gained identity and mission.
• Additional Scripture: Galatians 2:20 – “I have been crucified with Christ…”
• Additional Question: Which person’s story do you personally relate to more, and why?
• Conversation Caution: Watch for black-and-white thinking about which conversion story is “better.” God uses both drama and quiet obedience.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Break into pairs to discuss, then share insights with the group.

 

2. How might someone who doesn’t follow Jesus view Paul and Matthew’s surrender?

• Additional Thought: To the outside world, surrender may look like foolishness, loss, or unnecessary sacrifice—but it’s a doorway to freedom.
• Additional Scripture: 1 Corinthians 1:18 – The message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing.
• Additional Question: What would you say to someone who thinks surrendering to Jesus means “giving up too much”?
• Conversation Caution: Be sensitive to doubts or skepticisms in the group—frame things gently and listen well.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Have group members respond from the perspective of a friend who doesn’t yet know Christ.

SHARE IT

1. In this series, we’ll discover why surrendering to Jesus is not the last option, but the best option. If someone asked you why surrendering to Jesus is worth it, what would you say?

• Additional Thought: Encourage authentic responses, not polished ones. For example: “I had peace for the first time,” or “I knew I was forgiven.”
• Additional Scripture: John 10:10 – “I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”
• Additional Question: What’s one area where surrender has brought unexpected blessing?
• Conversation Caution: Don’t let this become overly idealistic—allow space for acknowledging that surrender is hard.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Break into groups of 3 and encourage each person to answer.

 

2. What in your life was a significant moment or thing that you had to surrender to Jesus, and what was the impact?

• Additional Thought: Some people may talk about relationships, career paths, or past pain. This is a moment for vulnerability and grace.
• Additional Scripture: Psalm 55:22 – “Cast your burden on the Lord…”
• Additional Question: Looking back, how do you see God’s hand in that moment?
• Conversation Caution: This may get emotionally heavy—watch for signs and offer to circle back after group.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Create 2-person prayer pairs for this question and the next.

 

3. Jesus’ family tree includes people with messy pasts and broken stories. How does that shape the way you see yourself being in Jesus’ family? How does this help you respond to others who feel they are too far gone, stuck, or unworthy?

• Additional Thought: The genealogy includes liars, prostitutes, foreigners, and kings—Jesus came through them and for them.
• Additional Scripture: Matthew 1:1–17; Romans 5:8
• Additional Question: Why do you think God included those people in Jesus’ lineage?
• Conversation Caution: Some may feel stuck in shame. Highlight the truth: no one is disqualified from God’s grace.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Have the group read one or two names from the genealogy and identify their story.

 

LIVE IT

1. Matthew was someone most people had written off, but Jesus saw purpose in him. Is there someone in your life who others overlook, avoid, or judge—someone God might be calling you to love or reach out to?

Action Step: Will you commit to praying for them this week, and maybe take a small step to connect or encourage them?

• Additional Thought: Jesus calling Matthew reminds us to look past labels. For example: “That kid’s a lost cause” or “She’ll never change.”
• Additional Scripture: Luke 5:31–32 – Jesus came for the sick, not the healthy.
• Additional Question: What would a first step toward reaching out look like?
• Conversation Caution: People might mention politically or socially sensitive relationships—keep the tone redemptive.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Close by praying as a group over the people mentioned.

 

2. If Jesus is King, that means He gets to lead—every area, every decision, every aspect of our lives. How might God’s kingship challenge the way you make choices this week? Is there a decision or habit you need to surrender to His rule?

• Additional Thought: This question calls for reflection. Areas might include finances, time, relationships, media use, or mindset.
• Additional Scripture: Matthew 6:33 – “Seek first the kingdom of God…”
• Additional Question: What would change if you treated Jesus as the actual King of your week?
• Conversation Caution: Avoid pressuring people into forced confessions. Give room for silent conviction.
• Group Dynamic Tip: Encourage writing it down. What’s one habit or decision I’ll surrender this week?” Then invite prayer.